Leasson I learned
It's not the same to say :
I FEEL you are using me.
Then to say
I'm feeling used.
I heard again "the way you talk to me". Bamefuly, acusing and pointing at me.
So I ask... What is this way I talk to you? Is the entonation? It's the words I use. Then she said she doesn't know but also it's the expression of my face.
Then I'm trying to "explain" myself" that I was taking about how I feel... Somehow she in her trying to repeat what I said, she repeats words, phrases and sentences that I never said (but how she interpreted and or how she felt them)... if I tell her that i never said that... She gets angry because she felt invalidated. If I tell her that she interpreted probably in the way how she feel and not in the way I intended, she disagrees and throw me questions like "so now you know how I feel huh?, you don't know how I feel"
And then I remembered that I heard that she was taking like that about her ex.
... On anycase...
I thing I finally got why she was feeling pointed. When in my head I was only taking off myself and how I feel. Triggering is each other.
But yes, words matter. How we use them too.
